Considering my blog is on "Why marriages fail" a lot of the comments are asking ways to save a marriage instead of just letting it fall apart. I found plenty of reasons, actually more reasons then why a marriage fails.
Marriage counseling is obviously one of the steps you can take to try to make things work, but not every marriage needs BOTH parties too attend counseling. Any side of the relationship should be able to admit that they might need help in the relationship and it could possibility make things easier if you just tell the truth and try to get the help that you need.
This way of trying to save a marriage is my favorite actually. It's " never stop trying to find reasons why you love your spouse. Don't try to keep finding bad things, always find good things"
THIS, makes me believe that people do NOT need to get divorced! See when a marriage starts to fall the tiniest bit apart, the two parties bicker about everything, and keep finding things they do not like about their spouse, instead of trying to find new things that can make them fall in love even more!! The were reasons why there was a marriage, never stop trying to find new ways to love your man/woman! Even though sometimes they can really get on your nerves!
DO NOT bring your family and your friends into your marriage! THIS MAKES THINGS WORSE! The more you tell other people, the more other people tell other people and it ends up coming back to your spouse some how. The best thing to do, is communicate communicate communicate!!!!!!!! It is the very best thing to do in a marriage, and it can save your marriage completely and utterly out front! There is no better way to save a marriage then too keep things between you too, and never ever stop communicating!
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/01/how-to-save-marriage_n_3444602.html
Like Mia said you hit bull's eye when you pointed out that communication is key! Also, in my opinion, I believe that trust, respect, loyalty, and support are also big factors as to why some marriages stay strong. Interesting post!
ReplyDeleteI believe, if a relationship is not working out, then one should definitely get separated. The tip to only think about that what is good about her/him is not easy to do when someone finds every reason to hurt you. I agree with Ashley that respect and loyalty can not be ignored in a relationship. However, before making any decisions counseling is the right way to go!
ReplyDeleteI cannot quite tell from this post, but have you been in a failed marriage? You might have mentioned that in a previous post, but think of each post as a stand-alone document--so that if readers jump into your post here, and then try to read backward, they are "caught up" with the story at any given point.
ReplyDeleteHow does one keep "communication" in the forefront of one's marriage? I think specific examples in this text will really make your points stronger. Remember to scaffold the argument with supporting information. That can come in the form of anecdotal (personal) details or statistics, or interviews, or any of a number of ways...